To Make Any Progress In Life You Have To Lead – Doing It Mindfully Will Help You To Achieve Success

Whether you’re the founder of a startup, the captain of a sports team, a parent, brother or just trying to organise a group of buddies to go on an adventure with, you’re a leader. Trouble is that, as with most of the important things in life, it doesn’t come with a manual.

Fortunately, Neil Seligman is an expert in mindfulness, and author of new book ‘Conscious Leadership’ – he has some practical, everyday hacks to help you become a better, more mindful leader, and move closer to your goals – RSNG asked him about it…

RSNG What’s the first step to being a more mindful leader? NEIL SELIGMAN, AUTHOR ‘Start with Awareness. Awareness is at the heart of being, so when it comes to Conscious Leadership, awareness is everything. The more aware you can be of yourself, others and the salient facts, the better chance you have of making the right next move.’

‘Yet to connect to the full potential of your awareness, the mind must be accessed in the right way. The route of access is as follows:’

‘Embodiment – body online.’ ‘Connectivity – heart online.’ ‘Mind – wisdom online.’

‘Most have never been taught this route, and instead go straight to mind without stages one and two. When the mind comes on in this way, it may sound intelligent but is frequently disconnected, fearful and limited.’

Break the cycle of roll-over failure by creating a ‘done list’ to go along side your ‘to-do list’ – you may soon realise that you nailed today!

RSNG Sounds good, how can I do that, starting tomorrow? NS ‘Developing increased self-awareness will require some spaciousness in your day for contemplation, listening, and checking-in. Notice if your mind immediately presents resistance to this, and commit to breaking through.’

‘Build one of these elements in to your weekday morning practice until it feels comfortable and habitual then reassess and add more if you wish:’

‘Digital-free wake-up: Commit to spending the first 30 minutes of your day without checking your smartphone.’

‘Meditate: Listen to the same 10-15 minute guided mindfulness practice every weekday morning for a month.’

‘Better-than-nothing workout: Each weekday morning, choose three exercises you already know well, do ten reps of each, then you are done.’

‘Look out of the window for five minutes with no other stimulus: Notice what is arising in the world. Notice what is arising in you.’

RSNG OK how can I build on this during the day? NS ‘You can keep building self-awareness throughout the day by checking in with yourself each time you catch your reflection. Feel your feet on the floor and take a conscious breath.’

‘Inhale fully feeling the physical sensations of the inhale in the body, knowing that you are breathing in, exhale completely, feeling the physical sensations of the exhale, knowing that you are breathing out.’

‘Ask yourself what am I experiencing in this moment and notice the mix of thoughts, emotions and sensations that are present.’

RSNG Is there anything I can change about how I get things done? NS ‘Start A ‘Done List’. We all have a to-do list yet most of us get to the end of the day with a mountain of tasks yet to complete, and then feel a mix of guilt, shame, and failure as we transfer the pile-up into tomorrow.’

‘Not a great recipe for happiness! Break the cycle of roll-over failure by creating a ‘done list’ to go along side your ‘to-do list’. When you record every task that you actually complete, you may soon realise that you nailed today!’

RSNG Is it important to recognise these small successes? NS‘Yes. Each time you tick a to-do item off the list (or pop something on the done list) take a mini-pause to celebrate. Ten mindful seconds is enough. The gaps between tasks are important.’

RSNG Being a leader is stressful, which doesn’t sound very mindful to me – how can we combat the stress part? NS ‘Part of the skill of the leader is being able to remain stable in circumstances where others are losing their grounding. Being a Conscious Leader asks you to go one step further – to remain stable and connected to yourself, others, your wisdom and your compassion.’

‘So, if the proverbial hits the fan today at work, I recommend STOP, a pocket-practice taught on Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) courses to help you remain in contact with your resources and respond with increased clarity and calm.’

Stop and pause. Ground yourself for a moment. Feel the force of gravity pushing you into your feet or seat.’ ‘Take a conscious breath and bring both palms together holding your hands in a gentle clasp. Feel the warmth and energy of your body and your humanity.’ ‘Open – widen the focus of your awareness by observing non-judgmentally what is happening internally and externally. Can you also notice If there is a new opportunity presenting itself?’ ‘Proceed, or pause again.’

RSNG How about something I can do once I’m done for the day? NS ‘At the end of the day make a list of three things that you are grateful for. Repeat daily. Doing this is scientifically proven to improve relationships, mental and physical health, empathy, self-esteem and overall resilience.’

RSNG Hmm – what if it was a shocking day where nothing seemed to go right? NS ‘If things really did not go your way, instead of dwelling in a soup of automatic negative thoughts, and feeding that sense of dread and foreboding for the days ahead, get proactive by completing these three sentences:’

‘3 skills I am learning or developing: …’ ‘3 people I will positively impact this week: …’ ‘3 personal values I get to express in my role: …’

‘In this way, even if there are some landmines ahead in your schedule, you can commence tomorrow with a clear intention of why you do what you do, and how it is feeding into your long-term vision of your values, life, and career.’

Alignment means harmonising who you are with what you do – you are a human being not a human doing

RSNG We hear a lot about how binging on evening screentime can be bad for your mindset – got an alternative? NS ‘Yes. Before bed, gift yourself a screen-free chill-down by trying this simple mindfulness practice:’

’Take a seat and drop into the quiet moments, allowing yourself to sense a pause.’ ‘Reflect on a small or large moment of happiness from the day and allow the feelings to return and be felt in the body.’ ‘Take five breaths in awareness bringing to mind the details of the experience: where you were, who you were with, what you were doing.’ ‘As you feel the sensations of happiness in the body, imagine those feelings increasing, and becoming brighter.’ ‘Finally, as you visualise tomorrow, allow yourself to notice one thing that fills you with optimism.’ ‘Close by setting an intention for how you will move through the coming days.’

RSNG How would you define success as a conscious leader? NS ‘Alignment is the new Success. Alignment means harmonising who you are (primary) with what you do (secondary). After all, you are a human being not a human doing.’

‘Pursuing alignment in preference to success means that as a Conscious Leader of your own life and career, each time you reach a fork in the road, large or small, you ask yourself which path takes you closer into alignment with who you really are.’

‘You will know you are moving into alignment because it brings with it happiness, purpose and connects you with a sense of aliveness.’

RSNG And what can conscious leadership give to the world at large? NS ‘Our world is in desperate need of Conscious Leaders. As old models are being challenged and new ones are being born, Conscious Leaders need to be at the forefront, speaking up for harmonic solutions to complex problems.’

‘At whatever stage you are at in your career and life, Conscious Leadership boils down to mindful moments where suddenly you find yourself speaking up for a different way of doing things, challenging ingrained power structures, or making a bold request for something important that has been overlooked to now be considered.’

‘We practice, in order that we might meet those moments courageously and speak with confidence, purpose, and integrity.’

WHAT NEXT? Want some practical ways to live more Zen and reduce stress while increasing happiness? Then read RSNG’s easy wellbeing hacks from Zen monk Shunmyo Masuno.

Neil Seligman is a leading mindfulness expert and inspirational speaker, and the founder of The Conscious Professional, a corporate mindfulness, resilience and wellbeing consultancy. He is the author of Conscious Leadership, published by White Lion Publishing

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